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Our active community is growing, and this afternoon, we surpassed 400 active members! congradulations!

Let’s keep the community growing!

Wishing you all the best in your path to success!

Alan

I know what to do, so why don’t I do It?

Do you have any critical issues in your life that you’re NOT taking action on, like losing weight … getting a new job … improving your finances … or changing a relationship?
What about your everyday life? Is inaction a general habit that causes you to do things like:

Leave unfinished projects lying around your house?
Do meaningless chores instead of really important tasks?
Drag your feet on making necessary phone calls or writing
thank-you notes?
Wait until the last minute (or even later) to file your taxes?
Consistently return movies or pay bills late?
Make a to-do list, and then ignore it?
Continue bad habits when you simply know better?

Here’s why I’m asking:
So much information out there is aimed at helping you figure out what you need to do in order to get what you want in life. But for a lot of people — and maybe for you — the question isn’t what to do. They already know that.

It’s actually doing it that’s the problem. Whatever your particular issue may be, if you can identify with the challenge of knowing what to do, but still not doing it, then I’ve got life-changing news for you. The typical excuses for not doing what you know you should — I’m too stressed out … I don’t have the time … I don’t have the energy, etc. — are, in fact, manifestations of a complex, interconnected web of psychological, chemical, and neurological factors.

When activated, these factors can effectively paralyze you — making it virtually impossible for you to take the actions needed to create change in your life. In other words, it isn’t laziness, lack of willpower, and/or low motivation that are to blame for the fact that you aren’t achieving your goals. Even if you’re highly motivated … even if you want something very badly … and even if you know exactly what you need to do to get it … if you’ve got these internal circumstances operating, you AREN’T going to be able to do it.

But while the biochemistry may be complex, the solutions are actually quite simple. These solutions — and the fascinating science behind them — are revealed in a powerful audio system that examines all 10 of the most common excuses for inaction:

Excuse #1: “I’m too stressed out.”
Excuse #2: “I don’t believe I can.”
Excuse #3: “I don’t have the time.”
Excuse #4: “I don’t have the energy.”
Excuse #5: “I’m too emotional.”
Excuse #6: “I’ll always be the way I am.”
Excuse #7: “I’m afraid I’ll make a mistake.”
Excuse #8: “I’m too sick.”
Excuse #9: “I’m too skeptical.”
Excuse #10: “I can’t do it alone.”

… and gives you DOZENS of tips, techniques, and scientifically sound secrets for overcoming each of them. Strategies that address the roots of your excuses and OBLITERATE them right then and there.

What are you NOT doing
that you know you SHOULD do? Eating better? Exercising? Eliminating your debt?
Rethinking your career? Reorganizing your household? Repairing that long-lost friendship?
Just think of all the big and little things you would be able to accomplish if you could break through the excuses that typically hold you back.
Doing just that is so much easier than you’ve been led to believe, and I’d like you to find out.
This series of blogs, “I Know What to Do, So Why Don’t I Do It?” will introduce you to an incredible arsenal of tools that will empower you to achieve any goal you want to — for the rest of your life.
Once you have these tools, any time you feel the old excuses creeping up on you, you will know EXACTLY what to do to overcome them instantly. And when you can do that, NOTHING will be able to stop you from achieving any goal, any plan, any dream you can imagine.

Once you overcome those paradigms, that question that has been nagging you, I know what to do, so why don’t I do it? will seem to have vanished as well.

Thank you,Take care

As you grow older, you might look back upon your life with a sense of regret for things you did not do or things you did not know. While you can understand that it was all a part of the learning process, you still want to pass along some of your mistakes to your children in order to help them make the most of their lives. One of the best ways you can help your child develop and grow is to teach them how to motivate themselves - without your input. Not only will this benefit you as a parent, but your children will be able to apply these lessons to the rest of their life.

Why Motivation Should Start Young

What most parents do when they are raising their children is to create boundaries in which they can safely learn to grow and make decisions. While this is the right thing to do when a child is very young, as they grow older, these boundaries can cause them to be limited in their experience of the world - and of making mistakes. Lessons learned from these mistakes are invaluable, but without being given the opportunity to fail, your child will not learn to succeed.

Motivating themselves should start when children are still given strict boundaries. By learning the reasons behind doing things, they can begin to see why it’s important to complete certain tasks. This will instill in them a strong sense of self worth because they know they are making a difference, but it will also allow the child to learn responsibility for handling chores and other activities.

The more the child is put into these sorts of situations, the more they will be able to begin these tasks on their own. By knowing that their actions will have value for others as well as for themselves, they will be motivated to complete the things they need to do.

Teaching Motivation

Children are already learning more than you can possibly imagine. Each new experience is something that is new and wondrous, but without a context, the importance may also be easily lost. There are several ways you can begin to teach motivation without seeming like you’re condemning the child’s age:

- Be interactive with your children - Explain to them why you do things and why they are asked to do things. Listen to their concerns and address their concerns as well.

- Encourage your children to ask questions - This fosters self-confidence and importance in their lives.

- Reward children for self motivating - Whether they’ve done an extra chore without your asking or they’ve simply begun to reduce their dependence on you, make sure to reward this to let them know they’re on the right track.

Children who are self motivated will grow up to be strong students and people. Instead of constantly looking for someone else to do the job for them, they will be looking for ways to make things happen in their own lives. Wouldn’t this make them and you proud?

Last Night we’ve hit a milestone, we’ve surpassed over 200k in unique videos distributed! I am so happy to be helping you all to reach new levels of success in all areas of life.
To celebrate, we are going to add a significant bulk of videos over the weekend.

 Please share this incredible Success TV with those you know would enjoy, or could need something like this….

This week, I came across an article by Jim Rohn titled, Change Begins with Choice.
Powerful!!

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish; we
can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can
start a new activity. Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We
can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of
having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can
choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt
over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we
continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, “The fault is not
in the stars, but in ourselves.” We created our circumstances by our past choices.
We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning
today. Those who are in search of the good life do not need more answers or more
time to think things over to reach better conclusions. They need the truth. They
need the whole truth. And they need nothing but the truth.

We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the
wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest
difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that
will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives.

And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and
needing to make changes in their life - If you don’t like how things are, change it!
You’re not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life
- and it all begins with your very own power of choice.

Success Showdowns by Chris Widener

I confess, I love westerns. There is nothing like those “Showdown” scenes where the
film is shot from down low and you see those boots moving slowly, step by step until
they come to a stop just 100 feet from the other guy. Tumble weed blows by. The wind
stirs the dust. The camera moves up and you see fingers twitching, getting ready to
draw. You know that it is only a few moments until the good guy lets the bad guy
have it and he’ll be on his way to saving the day and setting the town free again.
All that stands in his way is this one obstacle. But that obstacle must be put away.

What would you do in that situation? Would you save the day and proceed to victory,
or would you run and hide? Running and hiding is tempting when you see the guy all
dressed in black, symbolizing your impending doom!

Isn’t that what happens regularly though? Our journey to success always has these
“Showdowns” that we have to go through if we are going to get there. There are
always going to be “bad guys” we have to get through.

Let’s take a look at a few:

Fear. Fear is the pre-imminent “bad guy.” He keeps millions of people from success.
Here is a secret: There are times when I am stretching myself to achieve all that I
can, when I am taking huge risks, that I wake up in the middle of the night and I am
so scared I can’t sleep! Fear will tell you anything to keep you from even trying!
But do you know what takes care of fear?

Persistence. You see, everybody has fear. The most successful people I know have
fear. But they work through it rather than give up! To be successful you have to
have and win that showdown with fear.

Crowd mentality. I have become increasingly aware of this in recent years. The crowd
is loud. They are tenacious in letting you know that they expect you to do things
their way or something is just not right. You know, it is the relative who calls you
a dreamer. It is the naysayers. They want you to do what is normal. Well friend,
nobody ever got successful doing what the crowd does. The crowd is average, that’s
why they’re the crowd! To be successful you have to have that showdown with the
calling of the crowd. Hear their voices screaming, “Don’t do that. Be like us,” and
win the showdown.

Doubt. Success usually takes a while. It rarely comes overnight. And after some
time, you will begin to doubt. “Am I dreaming too big?” “Did I take a dumb risk?”
“Should I quit and go back to something safe?” Rest assured, it will come. But this
is when your vision must be string and you must keep going. Stick with the dream.
Don’t give up! Overcome your doubt and the doubts of others! To be successful you
must have that showdown with doubt and win!

Yes, there will be many showdowns. The above are but a few, though they are the
major ones. Maybe you are experiencing them even now. Your time has come. The old
western music is playing. Your foe dressed in black grins that devilish grin. He
thinks you can’t do it. But have your showdown. Win. Then ride off into the sunset!

Chris Widener

1. Charting Your Course to Success Article

Attitudes of Successful Learners by Chris Widener (excerpted from Week 44 of the Jim
Rohn One-Year Success Plan)

Hi there, Chris Widener here. This week I want to talk with you about the attitudes
of successful learners.

We can choose our attitudes about anything, including learning and education. That's
right. We get to choose what our attitudes are. Here is the definition of attitude:
"The feeling or opinion about something or someone, or a way of behaving that
follows from this." We choose our opinion about people and situations. We choose the
way we will behave in relation to other people and circumstances. We choose what we
believe about learning. We choose it. Learning doesn't have to be bad. It doesn't
have to be anything but what we want it to be. We have the option. We can have
tremendously optimistic attitudes about learning - attitudes that will help us grow
in ways we have never achieved before!

The choice of a right attitude will significantly determine new circumstances.
Choosing to have the right attitude will change the world around you. This isn't any
sort of magic; it is just how the world works. Now, don't get me wrong. It won't
cure everything and turn your world into a virtual Shangri-La, but it will
significantly improve the world you live in. For example, let's say that every day
you go into work and you gripe about life and work from the moment you get there
until the moment you leave. Will others want to be around you? Will others ask your
opinion? Will others like you? Will others ask you to join them for lunch? Probably
not! But what if you come to work every day and you are the positive optimist of the
crowd? Will everybody love you? No, but significantly more people will than if you
are the office pessimist! Your choice of attitude will determine what kind of
circumstances you get!

The same is true with learning. What we feel about learning, and what we believe
about it will determine the outcomes of our learning. And the outcomes of our
learning will determine the outcome of our lives.

Ultimately, our attitude is a choice. Nobody else can force you to have a bad
attitude. Nobody else can force you to have a good attitude. It is simply a choice
we each make.

Where are you with your attitude about learning? Is it positive? Take some time to
give it some serious thought. Then, no matter where you find yourself, decide to
take your attitude to the next level! If you have a really bad attitude, decide to
take it up a couple of levels!

So, if our attitudes determine to a great degree what kind of life we have,
shouldn't we focus on the best attitudes to have and then make them ours?
Absolutely! If we want to soar with the eagles in this life, and if there are
attitudes that will make us soar, shouldn't we pursue them with all our hearts? By
all means! So here we go!

Attitudes of Successful Learners

1. "I can."
This is the most basic of all attitudes. We simply must choose to believe that we
can learn. In our house we are not allowed to say, "I can't." We can say, "I'll
try," or "I tried and failed," but not "I can't." Telling yourself that you can't
will in effect make it so. But telling yourself that you can, will in effect enable
you to learn much more. Even if you actually only achieve 50% of what you tell
yourself, you will achieve at least that much more than if you told yourself you
couldn't. So many people were told at a young age that they couldn't learn. Many
others were allowed to engage in that kind of negative self talk (tell themselves,
"I can't learn", "I don't understand", I'll never get this", etc.) and their parents
and teachers didn't intervene. This enabled them to develop the "I can't" attitudes
that become self-fulfilling prophecies.

I actually have a standard way of going about getting myself off of the starting
block. I simply say if somebody else has achieved great learning heights, then I can
too. I have to be smarter than at least one of those who has already done it. I have
to be able to work harder than at least one other. There has to be at least one
other person who has come from more difficult circumstances than me. And if they can
do it then certainly, "I can!"

2. "This is a long-term approach."
Learning isn't something that happens overnight. Yes, you can learn individual
facts, but the real growth comes when you see your learning build on itself and
compound for years, when your knowledge meets up with your experience. When we take
the attitude that it all has to happen immediately, we hurt ourselves in the long
run because the fact is that it takes time to learn (even though we can accelerate
it). If we expect it to happen immediately and it doesn't, then we can get
frustrated and stop learning altogether.

Instead, we need to take a long-term view just as we do in financial matters, weight
management, leadership, etc. Long-term thinking, including our learning is always
the best way to go for success.

3. "Learning is valuable."
Some people have a "learning schmearning - who needs learning" attitude. They think
that learning is overrated. I hate to tell you this, but not only was that wrong
5000, 500 and 50 years ago, it is especially wrong today. We live in the information
age. We must gain knowledge and the ability to apply that knowledge if we are going
to be successful. We must tell ourselves and cultivate the attitude that learning is
valuable and that it will affect our lives.

4. "I will make a difference in the lives of those around me."
People who soar are generally people who have the attitude of helping other people.
Yes, they may do it for monetary gain, but they are others-focused. They want to
change the way people live and experience life for the better. They are difference
makers all around. This is the same in what we learn. We learn first for ourselves,
but then with the goal of taking what we have learned, and what we make of
ourselves, and we then help others to do the same.

I live in a town that is very affluent. Most of the people I know, work with and
have as friends are very successful in this world. They have learned a lot about
life and how it works. They have learned how to make money and be successful in
business. One thing I can say, as almost a universal truth, is that as people, they
are not self-consumed but genuinely care about others and will do what they can to
help others. This is what I know to be true about the attitudes of the genuinely
successful.

These are the attitudes of people who are not just successful at getting information
into their minds, but in becoming good people because of that information. Learn all
that you can, and be sure to keep the attitudes that will make you a successful
learner and a successful person!

Have a great week!
Chris

Sam Silverman - The Four Characteristics of Successful People

Why do some people succeed and others fail? Are there genetic differences between those

who fail and those who succeed? Is success a result of luck or traits that are learned and developed? These are just some of the questions we continually ask ourselves as we seek
our own success. Does the grass eternally look greener on the other side of the fence? Well, here are the four secret characteristics of all successful people.

1. Vision
All successful people have vision. They see what they want. They have a picture in their mind’s eye of what life or business will be like when they achieve what it is they are seeking. This vision provides energy and direction that will impact your daily thoughts and actions. And, since your daily actions determine where you end up tomorrow, it is critical that you have a
vivid vision to strive for.

But a strong vision will do more than inspire and drive your actions. If your vision is powerful enough it will draw others in. If the umbrella of your vision is wide enough, other people will want to be a part of what it is that you are seeking.

Apple computer has legions of loyal customers that advocate for them and help drive their brand. Causes are formed that people are drawn to because they want to be a part of those historical changes and their impact on society. What is your vision? Do you have a vision of how you want your life to be in one, three, or ten years? What about your business? Do you have a vision of how your business will look in one, three, or ten years? If not, get to work
creating that vision. Spread the word, and others will want to be a part of what you are doing as well.

2. Charisma
Do you attract or repel people? That may be a rough question, but the truth is that some people naturally attract others. These “other” people will be the solution to the problems and challenges that you will naturally face as you work toward achieving your vision.

I always felt that the key to the lock of my next challenge was on someone else’s key ring. It is so important to build relationships, to have friends in and out of business, and to have others that want to see you succeed as much as you want to succeed.

One great way to build these relationships and help others at the same time is participating in a Master Mind Group. A Master Mind Group is a formal group of five to seven people that meet on a regular basis to share experiences and help to solve each other’s challenges.

Being a part of professional associations is a great way to meet others that face your same issues. Building relationships within an association will be a great asset for you.

3. Quality Work
If a job is worth doing it is worth doing well. It’s that simple. Do great work. Give great service. Be ultra reliable. Anyone can just show up. You must stand out in your level of performance. Don’t settle for anything less than your best. Don’t make or accept excuses for a level of performance that doesn’t meet the high standard set by your vision.

Have others you trust give you feedback on your performance. Then, make the necessary adjustments so that you are always improving and always exceeding the expectations of your clients, friends, and relatives.

4. Time
Be patient. We tend to look at others and wonder, “How did they become an overnight success?” The truth is, they didn’t. Most overnight successes were 10 years in the making. Some make it sooner. Others take longer.

It takes time to sow the seeds. It takes time to gain the knowledge. It takes time to build the relationships. It takes time to have enough opportunities come your way that you can leverage into the results you desire. Greed kills patience. Don’t fall prey to it. Don’t settle for less then you can achieve, but at the same time have the patience to consistently do the right thing and make progress on your vision. Continually learn and expand your tool kit. Know that in the long run you will achieve your vision and more!

Adopt these four success characteristics, and you will be on the road to Building A Better Biz!

-Sam Silverstein, Motivational Speaker

Doing Better Than Good!

People frequently ask me, “How can I know when I am doing better than good?” I thought about that question and came up with 15 ways to measure yourself. Take a look and see what you think:

You are doing better than good when you clearly understand that failure is an event, not a person; that yesterday ended last night, and today is your brand new day.

You are doing better than good when you have made friends with your past, are focused on the present, and optimistic about your future.

You are doing better than good when you know that success (a win) doesn’t make you, and failure (a loss) doesn’t break you.

You are doing better than good when you are filled with faith, hope and love; and live without anger, greed, guilt, envy or thoughts of revenge.

You are doing better than good when you are mature enough to delay gratification and shift your focus from your rights to your responsibilities.

You are doing better than good when you know that failure to stand for what is morally right is the prelude to being the victim of what is criminally wrong.

You are doing better than good when you are secure in who you are, so you are at peace with God and in fellowship with man.

You are doing better than good when you have made friends of your adversaries, and have gained the love and respect of those who know you best.

You are doing better than good when you understand that others can give you pleasure, but genuine happiness comes when you do things for others.

You are doing better than good when you are pleasant to the grouch, courteous to the rude, and generous to the needy.

You are doing better than good when you love the unlovable, give hope to the hopeless, friendship to the friendless, and encouragement to the discouraged.

You are doing better than good when you can look back in forgiveness, forward in hope, down in compassion, and up with gratitude.

You are doing better than good when you know that “he who would be the greatest among you must become the servant of all.”

You are doing better than good when you recognize, confess, develop and use your God-given physical, mental and spiritual abilities to the glory of God and for the benefit of mankind.

You are doing better than good when you stand in front of the Creator of the universe and He says to you, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”

Think over each one of these 15 ideas and see how you can incorporate them into your life so that you truly are better than good!