Doing Better Than Good!
People frequently ask me, “How can I know when I am doing better than good?” I thought about that question and came up with 15 ways to measure yourself. Take a look and see what you think:

You are doing better than good when you clearly understand that failure is an event, not a person; that yesterday ended last night, and today is your brand new day.

You are doing better than good when you have made friends with your past, are focused on the present, and optimistic about your future.

You are doing better than good when you know that success (a win) doesn’t make you, and failure (a loss) doesn’t break you.

You are doing better than good when you are filled with faith, hope and love; and live without anger, greed, guilt, envy or thoughts of revenge.

You are doing better than good when you are mature enough to delay gratification and shift your focus from your rights to your responsibilities.

You are doing better than good when you know that failure to stand for what is morally right is the prelude to being the victim of what is criminally wrong.

You are doing better than good when you are secure in who you are, so you are at peace with God and in fellowship with man.

You are doing better than good when you have made friends of your adversaries, and have gained the love and respect of those who know you best.

You are doing better than good when you understand that others can give you pleasure, but genuine happiness comes when you do things for others.

You are doing better than good when you are pleasant to the grouch, courteous to the rude, and generous to the needy.

You are doing better than good when you love the unlovable, give hope to the hopeless, friendship to the friendless, and encouragement to the discouraged.

You are doing better than good when you can look back in forgiveness, forward in hope, down in compassion, and up with gratitude.

You are doing better than good when you know that “he who would be the greatest among you must become the servant of all.”

You are doing better than good when you recognize, confess, develop and use your God-given physical, mental and spiritual abilities to the glory of God and for the benefit of mankind.

You are doing better than good when you stand in front of the Creator of the universe and He says to you, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”

Think over each one of these 15 ideas and see how you can incorporate them into your life so that you truly are better than good!

Our active community is growing, and this afternoon, we surpassed 400 active members! congradulations!

Let’s keep the community growing!

Wishing you all the best in your path to success!

Alan

I don’t know if I’ve ever seen a book so appropriately named in my life. I’m sure I’ve never seen one embrace its subject with so much passion and conviction. The Little Gold Book of YES! Attitude: How to Find, Build and Keep a YES! Attitude for a Lifetime of SUCCESS (Jeffrey Gitomer’s Little Books) is a colorul, positive, infectious, uplifting, enjoyable, motivating, delightful little book.
Did I like it? I loved it. I loved everything about it.

I had finished reading the stack of books on my desk - some were for reviewing on blogs, others were novels by favorite fiction authors (Dean Koontz, Agatha Christie). Since I always, always, always have to be in the middle of at least one book to feel content, I headed to my husband’s bookshelf, knowing he had gotten a few books lately. Even though his books are mostly about golfing, business, and sales (not the kind of sales I’m interested in), every now and then he’ll have one that matters to me. This gold little book caught my eye right off the bat, as did the tile on the side, “Jeffrey Gitomer’s Little Gold Book of YES! Attitude.” It was love at first sight. Colorful? Check. Bold? Check. Stand out in the crowd? Check. Motivationally positive? Check. Check.

I plucked the book out from amongst books that were either in business suits or golf shoes and headed to the couch with my notebook and pen (taken from the husband’s desk…just call me Sticky Fingers). The little gold book and I got along famously and the pen got a real workout.

The book is full of adorable cartoon illustrations that’ll slap a smile on your face, and varying sizes and colors of text that make the entire reading process nothing short of delightful.

Jeffrey Gitomer makes it clear early in the book that we are responsible for our own attitudes. The kind of attitude we have is a choice we make, so if we want a YES! attitude, we have to make the choice to go out there and get it! He then spends the rest of the book telling the reader exactly how to do just that.

It’s your thoughts behind the words you speak that create your attitude. - Jeffrey Gitomer

There’s a fascinating “Attitude Self Test” that I wish everyone in the world could take. Without even looking at the results, the reader could have about 10, “A ha!” moments where they gain a little insight about themselves and their attitude. After the test, you can find out where, on the scale, your attitude rates - you’ll either be in the positive attitude group with the rest of us Jiminey Crickets, in the group that’ll have to work extra hard, or somewhere in between. Wherever you find yourself, you’ll be able to use the rest of the book to move higher and stay higher.

On page 47, the author pointed out something really interesting, “It takes twice as much energy to be negative than to be positive. That’s why, at the end of the argument, you may be tired.” He then went on to say, “Understand that negative energy and negative thoughts BLOCK positive thoughts and creative thoughts from occurring.”

Priceless! How priceless? Worth saying again priceless:

“Understand that negative energy and negative thoughts BLOCK positive thoughts and creative thoughts from occurring.”

Another especially effective part of the book (you know, in addition to the part between the first page and the last page) is a section where he lists the “Real World Attitude Busters.” From The flu (which I happened to be enjoying when I read the book) to losing something, the list hits home for everyone. He points out that Attitude Busters have two elements: Things and People. These elements will, as the book points out, either “…bust you or build you based on the way you react to them.”

Page 76 is one of the most powerful pages of the entire book, as it gives a list of “Positive things and YES! things that BUST attitude busters.” At first I was aghast that Starbucks and shopping weren’t listed, until I saw, “Something that you do with passion” and ”Anything inspirational” - yeah, that’s them. It’s a great list of things that can turn your attitude, mood, day and life around - which, if you ask me, makes it a list worth making copies of and placing randomly throughout your house. One on the refrigerator, one on your desk (definitely one on your desk!), etc.

The Little Gold Book of YES! Attitude: How to Find, Build and Keep a YES! Attitude for a Lifetime of SUCCESS (Jeffrey Gitomer’s Little Books)will also show you why it’s important to:

• Put things into writing
• Drain your brain at the end of each day
• Use your environment to your benefit
• Be careful how you view the local news
• Be on guard how you let others affect your attitude
• Be aware of the senses that can affect your attitude
• Use your attitude to improve your business
• Use your attitude to improve your relationships and life
• Realize that a positive attitude is attractive
• Realize that a positive attitude is contagious
• Buy the book!
• Read the book!
• Re-read the book!

“The main reason people rain on my parade is because they have no parade of their own.” - Jeffrey Gitomer

The title of this site is Self Help Daily, right? The goal of this blogger is to help others help themselves. I literally devote each day looking for information, tips, advice, quotes, etc that I can add to the web site that will help others build the life that will bring them the most happiness. My husband says I’m out to save the world. My response? Damn right! One person, one animal, and one tree at a time. I’m a proud hugger of each. Having said all of that, at this moment the number one thing I wish I could do for every human being (Polar Bears and Oaks simply don’t read well enough) is to lock them in a room with this book, one of my husband’s cool pens and a notebook. When I unlocked the door a few hours later, each would emerge a changed person. For the better.

The door wouldn’t be the only thing unlocked. The book would brilliantly, and forever, unlock their….

• Potential
• Self Restraint
• Inner Power
• Chains of negativity
• YES! Attitude

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I know what to do, so why don’t I do It?

Do you have any critical issues in your life that you’re NOT taking action on, like losing weight … getting a new job … improving your finances … or changing a relationship?
What about your everyday life? Is inaction a general habit that causes you to do things like:

Leave unfinished projects lying around your house?
Do meaningless chores instead of really important tasks?
Drag your feet on making necessary phone calls or writing
thank-you notes?
Wait until the last minute (or even later) to file your taxes?
Consistently return movies or pay bills late?
Make a to-do list, and then ignore it?
Continue bad habits when you simply know better?

Here’s why I’m asking:
So much information out there is aimed at helping you figure out what you need to do in order to get what you want in life. But for a lot of people — and maybe for you — the question isn’t what to do. They already know that.

It’s actually doing it that’s the problem. Whatever your particular issue may be, if you can identify with the challenge of knowing what to do, but still not doing it, then I’ve got life-changing news for you. The typical excuses for not doing what you know you should — I’m too stressed out … I don’t have the time … I don’t have the energy, etc. — are, in fact, manifestations of a complex, interconnected web of psychological, chemical, and neurological factors.

When activated, these factors can effectively paralyze you — making it virtually impossible for you to take the actions needed to create change in your life. In other words, it isn’t laziness, lack of willpower, and/or low motivation that are to blame for the fact that you aren’t achieving your goals. Even if you’re highly motivated … even if you want something very badly … and even if you know exactly what you need to do to get it … if you’ve got these internal circumstances operating, you AREN’T going to be able to do it.

But while the biochemistry may be complex, the solutions are actually quite simple. These solutions — and the fascinating science behind them — are revealed in a powerful audio system that examines all 10 of the most common excuses for inaction:

Excuse #1: “I’m too stressed out.”
Excuse #2: “I don’t believe I can.”
Excuse #3: “I don’t have the time.”
Excuse #4: “I don’t have the energy.”
Excuse #5: “I’m too emotional.”
Excuse #6: “I’ll always be the way I am.”
Excuse #7: “I’m afraid I’ll make a mistake.”
Excuse #8: “I’m too sick.”
Excuse #9: “I’m too skeptical.”
Excuse #10: “I can’t do it alone.”

… and gives you DOZENS of tips, techniques, and scientifically sound secrets for overcoming each of them. Strategies that address the roots of your excuses and OBLITERATE them right then and there.

What are you NOT doing
that you know you SHOULD do? Eating better? Exercising? Eliminating your debt?
Rethinking your career? Reorganizing your household? Repairing that long-lost friendship?
Just think of all the big and little things you would be able to accomplish if you could break through the excuses that typically hold you back.
Doing just that is so much easier than you’ve been led to believe, and I’d like you to find out.
This series of blogs, “I Know What to Do, So Why Don’t I Do It?” will introduce you to an incredible arsenal of tools that will empower you to achieve any goal you want to — for the rest of your life.
Once you have these tools, any time you feel the old excuses creeping up on you, you will know EXACTLY what to do to overcome them instantly. And when you can do that, NOTHING will be able to stop you from achieving any goal, any plan, any dream you can imagine.

Once you overcome those paradigms, that question that has been nagging you, I know what to do, so why don’t I do it? will seem to have vanished as well.

Thank you,Take care

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You have the ability to create your own mind-set. Whether your attitude is positive or negative, is up to you. The ability to change your environment, circle of friends, and attitude, is within your control.

Just like a computer absorbs raw data, so does your mind.
Within your mind a culture, within itself, has grown. Many people feel like they have no control of their own mind, because this culture has become negative. The negativity is a result of past experiences, being in a negative environment, or being under the influence of unconstructive ideas.

Similar to a computer virus, you have to identify it quickly, to avoid letting it spread within your mind. You can also pass this virus of negative thinking to people around you. As a result you are spreading negative energy around, like “weeds in a field.”

Much like a farmer, you cultivate too. The energy in your mind is the crop, and it is up to you, whether it is weeds or wheat. If you have a farm and let a field take care of itself; you will be lucky to have any kind of a crop, from it. This is the same with the energy within your mind.

You have to option to pick quality seeds: Information, in the form of books, eBooks, DVD’s, CD’s, lectures, courses, workshops, and seminars. This is learning, for the sake of self-improvement, and it results in a positive mind-set.

However, your work is not finished, because you must still reinforce the lessons, and keep everything in a focused order. This might be compared to fertilizing, watering, and “weeding the mind.” You have to work at it continually or the weeds will grow back. This, my friend, is meditation, and one of the reasons why we meditate, in the first place.

Meditation is controlled focus on an object, thought, or task without judgment. This process makes it possible to look at all situations objectively. You can find solutions, turn negative situations into positive learning experiences, and create your own positive mindset. As a result of this you will make new friends, reach goals, handle problems easily, and develop an indomitable spirit.

Remember the last time you made an accomplishment. That feeling, and that ability, are within all of us. It is a formula for success, but you have to take action. Action is something that the vast majority of people will never take.
Learn to separate yourself from “the pack,” through education, meditation, and action.

As you grow older, you might look back upon your life with a sense of regret for things you did not do or things you did not know. While you can understand that it was all a part of the learning process, you still want to pass along some of your mistakes to your children in order to help them make the most of their lives. One of the best ways you can help your child develop and grow is to teach them how to motivate themselves - without your input. Not only will this benefit you as a parent, but your children will be able to apply these lessons to the rest of their life.

Why Motivation Should Start Young

What most parents do when they are raising their children is to create boundaries in which they can safely learn to grow and make decisions. While this is the right thing to do when a child is very young, as they grow older, these boundaries can cause them to be limited in their experience of the world - and of making mistakes. Lessons learned from these mistakes are invaluable, but without being given the opportunity to fail, your child will not learn to succeed.

Motivating themselves should start when children are still given strict boundaries. By learning the reasons behind doing things, they can begin to see why it’s important to complete certain tasks. This will instill in them a strong sense of self worth because they know they are making a difference, but it will also allow the child to learn responsibility for handling chores and other activities.

The more the child is put into these sorts of situations, the more they will be able to begin these tasks on their own. By knowing that their actions will have value for others as well as for themselves, they will be motivated to complete the things they need to do.

Teaching Motivation

Children are already learning more than you can possibly imagine. Each new experience is something that is new and wondrous, but without a context, the importance may also be easily lost. There are several ways you can begin to teach motivation without seeming like you’re condemning the child’s age:

- Be interactive with your children - Explain to them why you do things and why they are asked to do things. Listen to their concerns and address their concerns as well.

- Encourage your children to ask questions - This fosters self-confidence and importance in their lives.

- Reward children for self motivating - Whether they’ve done an extra chore without your asking or they’ve simply begun to reduce their dependence on you, make sure to reward this to let them know they’re on the right track.

Children who are self motivated will grow up to be strong students and people. Instead of constantly looking for someone else to do the job for them, they will be looking for ways to make things happen in their own lives. Wouldn’t this make them and you proud?

This morning around 9:14 am est, the  internet’s video sharing site You Tube faced a significant amount of downtime, for almost 10 min. the site was down. What was the problem? All the thousands and millions of other websites out there who have business pendant if not lost due to the downtime. They embed their videos, entrusting the service, to have their videos down as well.

People seek alternatives to You Tube to get a better range of videos that appeal to their lifestyle.

Many popular alternatives are veoh.com , GodTube .com is a video-driven social network where users can explore their faith and the tenets of Christianity. Metacafe is one of the world’s largest video sites, attracting more than 25 million unique viewers each month, they specialize in short-form original content - from new, emerging talents and established Hollywood heavyweights alike.  MySpaceTV where you can find many tv show episodes. You can also watch full tv show episodes on the channels own website, like abc.com, cbs.com, tbs.com, usanetwork.com. Also some radio stations are now broadcasting their own Internet T.V. Channels. 97.1 FM features 24/7 hip-hop & R&B music videos on hot97.com , seeing that most of today’s music video channels, like MTV don’t always broadcast what they are supposed to, music videos.

BetterDaysTV.net features the internet’s largest free Success and Self Improvement Internet TV Channel. They have been growing very rapidly over the past few months since launch. They have over 500 videos to provide an alternative to today’s common t.v. programming. That is in providing people a way to look at tv as an informative, uplifting, and motivational ways to guide them to Better Days ahead. They’ve broadcasted to over 200,000 unique visitors since February 2008.  They have allowed their users to even share their favorite videos, and add them to the community, and gain monetization through Google advertisements.

The problem: Large video sites like You Tube makes millions and billions of dollars off advertising from the people’s work, videos. New sites like GetPaid2YouTube.com allows users to not only upload videos to share with friends, but also add videos from their favorite sites like YouTube, Dailymotion, Veoh, MetaCafe, etc. and make money from the advertisements themselves. Doesn’t that seem like an appropiate solution?

Wishing you all the best in your journey to success,
Alan

Last Night we’ve hit a milestone, we’ve surpassed over 200k in unique videos distributed! I am so happy to be helping you all to reach new levels of success in all areas of life.
To celebrate, we are going to add a significant bulk of videos over the weekend.

 Please share this incredible Success TV with those you know would enjoy, or could need something like this….

This week, I came across an article by Jim Rohn titled, Change Begins with Choice.
Powerful!!

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish; we
can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can
start a new activity. Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We
can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of
having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are. We can
choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt
over confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we
continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, “The fault is not
in the stars, but in ourselves.” We created our circumstances by our past choices.
We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning
today. Those who are in search of the good life do not need more answers or more
time to think things over to reach better conclusions. They need the truth. They
need the whole truth. And they need nothing but the truth.

We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the
wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest
difference in how our life works out. And then we must make the very choices that
will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives.

And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and
needing to make changes in their life - If you don’t like how things are, change it!
You’re not a tree. You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life
- and it all begins with your very own power of choice.

Success Showdowns by Chris Widener

I confess, I love westerns. There is nothing like those “Showdown” scenes where the
film is shot from down low and you see those boots moving slowly, step by step until
they come to a stop just 100 feet from the other guy. Tumble weed blows by. The wind
stirs the dust. The camera moves up and you see fingers twitching, getting ready to
draw. You know that it is only a few moments until the good guy lets the bad guy
have it and he’ll be on his way to saving the day and setting the town free again.
All that stands in his way is this one obstacle. But that obstacle must be put away.

What would you do in that situation? Would you save the day and proceed to victory,
or would you run and hide? Running and hiding is tempting when you see the guy all
dressed in black, symbolizing your impending doom!

Isn’t that what happens regularly though? Our journey to success always has these
“Showdowns” that we have to go through if we are going to get there. There are
always going to be “bad guys” we have to get through.

Let’s take a look at a few:

Fear. Fear is the pre-imminent “bad guy.” He keeps millions of people from success.
Here is a secret: There are times when I am stretching myself to achieve all that I
can, when I am taking huge risks, that I wake up in the middle of the night and I am
so scared I can’t sleep! Fear will tell you anything to keep you from even trying!
But do you know what takes care of fear?

Persistence. You see, everybody has fear. The most successful people I know have
fear. But they work through it rather than give up! To be successful you have to
have and win that showdown with fear.

Crowd mentality. I have become increasingly aware of this in recent years. The crowd
is loud. They are tenacious in letting you know that they expect you to do things
their way or something is just not right. You know, it is the relative who calls you
a dreamer. It is the naysayers. They want you to do what is normal. Well friend,
nobody ever got successful doing what the crowd does. The crowd is average, that’s
why they’re the crowd! To be successful you have to have that showdown with the
calling of the crowd. Hear their voices screaming, “Don’t do that. Be like us,” and
win the showdown.

Doubt. Success usually takes a while. It rarely comes overnight. And after some
time, you will begin to doubt. “Am I dreaming too big?” “Did I take a dumb risk?”
“Should I quit and go back to something safe?” Rest assured, it will come. But this
is when your vision must be string and you must keep going. Stick with the dream.
Don’t give up! Overcome your doubt and the doubts of others! To be successful you
must have that showdown with doubt and win!

Yes, there will be many showdowns. The above are but a few, though they are the
major ones. Maybe you are experiencing them even now. Your time has come. The old
western music is playing. Your foe dressed in black grins that devilish grin. He
thinks you can’t do it. But have your showdown. Win. Then ride off into the sunset!

Chris Widener

Chris Widener’s Ezine
April, 2008

Welcome!

Life always presents us with interesting scenarios and those often provide
opportunities for thought and learning. For example, several years ago after we’d
moved into our new house, we had a new riding lawn mower delivered with a large
attachment that hooks onto it and sucks the grass up and into a container. I think
they called it a grass catcher…

Now, you have to know that I have, and I can’t stress this enough: absolutely no
mechanical ability whatsoever! So I did what any normal guy like me would do: I paid
my then 14-year-old boy to put it together for me. He got ten bucks, I got a grass
catcher - we were both happy!

An hour after giving him the task, he came into my office and announced that he was
done. I promptly handed him ten bucks and he said, “I can’t believe that I just got
paid $10 for doing something I like to do.” To which I said, “No, you got paid $10
for doing something I don’t like to do.”

Well, that got me to thinking about who gets paid what in our society. Think about
it for a minute:

Doing things that others could do but don’t want to do will get you paid very
little. Things like garbage collection. That will get you $18-30,000 a year.

Doing things that others could do with a little effort and education but choose not
to do will get you paid more. Things like tax preparation. That will get you
$60-120,000 a year.

Doing things that others could do, but would require a lot of effort and education
and so they choose not to do will get you paid quite a bit. Jobs like being an
attorney or a doctor come to mind. That will get you $80-750,000 a year.

Doing things that others can’t do but would like to do will get you paid a lot!
Things like being able to dunk a basketball, hit a 95 mile an hour fastball over a
fence or throw a football 60 yards to a man running a 4.2 forty come to mind. That
will get you from $400,000 to $25 million a year.

Have you ever given thought to why you earn what you earn and how it is related to
what others are able and/or willing to do? It is insightful because if you want to
increase your revenue, you can just tweak what you provide to others based on what
they are willing to pay for it.

Chew on that… I know I am. You Are Made for Success!
Chris Widener

ACTIVITY/LABOR

“Don’t wait for mentors to seek you out. Don’t ever wait for your phone calls to be
returned, your letters to be answered, your faxes to be responded to. Keep going out
and asking questions.” — Denis Waitley

“Success is dependent upon the glands–sweat glands.” — Zig Ziglar

“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.”
– Benjamin Disraeli

“Without constant activity, the threats of life will soon overwhelm the values.” –
Jim Rohn

ADVENTURE

“Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either
a daring adventure or nothing.” — Helen Keller

“It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in
the end.” — Ursula Le Guin

“Never forget that life can only be noble inspired and rightly lived if you take it
bravely and gallantly, as a splendid adventure in which you are setting out into an
unknown country, to face many a danger, to meet many a joy, to find many a comrade,
to win and lose many a battle.” — Annie Besant

“The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious.” — Albert Einstein

ASKING

“When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to
what?’” — Sydney J. Harris

“Before beginning a hunt, it is wise to ask someone what you are looking for before
you begin looking for it.” — Winnie the Pooh

“Ask for the job you want. Ask for the salary you want. Ask for the responsibilities
you want.” — Brian Tracy

“When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of
other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto
power over your life.” — Albert F. Geoffrey

“The organization that can’t communicate can’t change, and the corporation that
can’t change is dead.” Nido Qubein

Taking Time for Yourself in a Relationship by John Gray

We have all heard this advice before. No matter how wonderful togetherness feels in
a relationship, it is still crucial for partners to take time for themselves. There
is simply no way that a man or a woman can fulfill all of their partner’s needs;
it’s just impossible to do. Too often people will give up a favorite hobby, sport or
pastime in the beginning of a relationship in order to devote more time and energy
to making the relationship work. But, what happens down the road when one or both
partners realize that they are terribly out of balance and not taking time for
themselves? Relationship stress, miscommunication, or worse: resentment and
emotional pain can result.

It is healthy to have different interests. In fact, giving up our own interests and
the little things that we do to nurture ourselves when a relationship starts will
eventually lead to resentment down the road.

It’s important for both partners to value quality relaxation time. There is
absolutely no need to feel guilty about spending time alone. Independence is good
for both men and women, no matter how close they may be in the relationship.
Typically, when one partner actively takes some alone time, their partner is
encouraged to do the same.

How our differences compliment each other:
Just as men and women have different needs in a relationship, they also have
different reasons for needing time to themselves. Too much togetherness usually
results in partners expecting too much from each other. Women may tend to smother
their mates, while men may seem cold and uncaring. It is healthy for each partner to
take time out to explore his or her individual interests.

What Men Need:
Men need to periodically pull away. Remember that men are like rubber bands. It is
his natural cycle to get close, pull away, and get close again. It is important for
men to fulfill their need for independence. Men automatically alternate between
needing intimacy and autonomy. Give a man his space and he will be a better, more
attentive, partner. When a man gets too close and doesn’t pull away, he often
experiences increased moodiness, irritability, passivity, and defensiveness.

Also, when a man is in his cave, he wants to be left alone. He is working out his
problems and frustrations by either doing something alone, like reading the paper or
watching TV, or doing something active with his male friends.

Most men are happy when their mates do something fun for themselves at these times.
It means that she is not sitting around waiting for him to come out of the cave. He
will come out ready to talk and be intimate again, and she will have curbed her
frustrations by being good to herself and having some fun.

What Women Need:
It is good for a woman’s self esteem to take care of herself. She can get wrapped up
in taking care of her family and forget how much she needs to nurture herself.
Particularly when a man is off in his cave, she can enjoy the time alone to go
shopping, work in her garden, go to a class at the gym, or simply languish in the
simple pleasure of soaking in a hot bath with a glass of wine.

It is especially important for a woman to cultivate relationships with other women.
Women need to talk about what’s happening in their lives. On Venus, this is an
important part of relationship building. Since this is not the case on Mars, it is
wonderful for a woman to get together with her girlfriends so that they can talk
about, and listen to, each other’s problems, without judgment or offering
unsolicited advice.

Couples can even plan these separate times apart. For instance, Tuesday could be his
poker night with the boys, and Thursday her night for dinner and a movie with her
girlfriends. Both partners will not only appreciate the time to do the things that
make them feel good, but will come back feeling renewed and excited to be in such a
healthy, well-balanced relationship.

– John Gray

Keep in mind that winners are people who are willing to do the things losers refuse to do - even when they don’t want to. - Glenn Van Ekeren

Things like..

• Getting up an hour earlier
• Getting to work early
• Studying longer than you have to
• Asking questions when you don’t have the answers
• Staying at the office after everyone else has left
• Working out for 45 minutes instead of 20
• Calling on the client no one else wants to
• Smiling on the outside when the inside’s frowning
• Turning the television off and reading a book
• Learning somethng new every day
• Going two extra miles
• Doing something unexpectedly kind for someone else
• Not shining a spotlight on your kind deed and wanting nothing in return

I Learned from My Grandma that the Seeds of Greatness Are… by Denis Waitley

My grandma, Mabel Reynolds Ostrander, and I shared one of those special
relationships as rare as a double rainbow. She was fifty-three when I was ten.
That’s when we planted our first “Victory” garden together during World War II. We
planted seeds together — in the soil — and in each other.

Grandma lived eighty-seven seasons without a complaint. I was forty-four when I last
saw her. But I remember every mince and lemon tart, every bite of “made from
scratch” apple pie, and every lingering wave of her hand as she stood (out of sight
or so she thought) behind the rayon, Priscilla curtains in the little house at 718
West Pennsylvania Avenue in San Diego, California, where I was born and raised. As
our station wagon full of kids and contentment would slowly pull away from the curb,
we would all look back at her and wave – and I would gaze at her fragile silhouette
through the rear view mirror, wishing I could frame her there forever, just that way
– wondering how many more Easter and Christmas dinners we would share.

Most of all, I remember my grandma and me planting seeds. We planted squash, beans,
corn, watermelons, beets, pansies, mums and other flowers. I’ll admit I rode my bike
those twenty miles each Saturday more for the bonus of the conversation and the
homemade pastries, than for the vegetables and flowers. But no matter how full I was
after I ate, I was always left hungry for more of the wisdom and optimism she shared
with me.

I’ll never forget the day we tasted our first harvest as a result of crossing a plum
tree with an apricot tree. The ripe fruit was pink, not purple like a plum, nor
orange like an apricot; but a combination of both. “Gee, do you suppose they’ll be
any good?” I asked. “Why of course they will be wonderful,” she chided. “Didn’t we
do the planting, nurturing and pruning?”

Sure enough, they were delicious, even though they were different than any fruit I’d
ever seen before. “That’s because they are uniquely unlike any other fruit you’ll
ever eat. They are plumcots!” she exulted. “You always get out what you put in,” she
continued as we sat under the tree eating most of what we had picked.

“Plant apple seeds and you get apple trees, plant acorns and you get majestic oak
trees, plant weeds and you will harvest weeds (even without watering), plant the
seeds of great ideas and you will get great individuals,” she said softly and
intently, looking directly into my eyes. “Do you understand what I mean?” I nodded,
remembering I’d heard her say the same thing before, in different ways.

I learned from my grandma that the seeds of greatness are not special genes,
dependent on the gifted birth, the inherited bank account, the intellect, the
skin-deep beauty, the race, the gender, or the status. The seeds of greatness are
attitudes and beliefs that begin in children by observing, imitating and
internalizing the lifestyles of significant role models and heroes.

“Model your thoughts and actions after men and women who have been passionate,
excellent, honest, unselfish and creative in their service to others,” my
grandmother had counseled. Armed with that affirmation, I ventured forth to sow and
reap my own legacy in life.

I’ve traveled the world to the seven seas.
I’ve been up at the top and down on my knees.
I’ve been blessed with abundance and plenty of weeds.
But I’ve never stopped caring about others’ needs.

As you tend your own garden, unlike any other.
Remember the words of my lovely grandmother.
“If you’re hoping to harvest a life of great deeds, remember you first have to plant
some great seeds.”

Denis Waitley

What you leave in your children is more important than what you leave to them.

Parents and grandparents have enormous power to influence their children’s lives and
directions. So, how can you and your children achieve the goals of self-confidence
and self-esteem?

You know the old joke about the weather, right? Everyone talks about it but no one ever does anything about it. In the area of Self Help, our “weather” is definitely happiness. Everyone has it on their mind, and it comes up frequently in conversation. People want to talk about it, and they most definitely want to possess it, but when it comes to doing anything about it….. they kind of fade into the background. The reason might be that they don’t know HOW to just be happy.

I lean toward the belief that, as Abraham Lincoln said, “People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” (That, of course, doesn’t include people who find themselves in the middle of grief, or a physical or mental illness.)

For most of us, however, I think that if you’re a happy person today - you’ll be a happy person tomorrow. If it takes a perfect balancing of planets, harmony in all relationships, and butterlies outside of your window to MAKE you happy, the happiness isn’t coming from within - it’s coming from without. That’s not a good thing, of course, because that’s forever changing.

Think about the people in your world. Some are happier than others, right? Some are so happy, being around them is about like watching an episode of Andy Griffith! Even when circumstances are foul, they’re generally light-spirited and smiling - maybe even joking around. The good news is that they weren’t born that way, so what happy people “have” is available for everyone. Basically, there are nine secrets that happy people have sewn into the fabric of their lives, probably without even realizing that they’ve done so. Three are below, the other six will be hot on their heels.

1. Happy people know, understand, and even embrace the fact that life isn’t perfect. They stopped expecting their days to sail by without any turbulance long ago. They’ve simply adapted their thinking and reactions to “ride” the waves rather than fighting against them. By contrast, unhappy people think that every turbulance, every bump, every misstep is a catastrophic event. It “wouldn’t” happen to other people - only to them. They think God has allowed this injustice and they, quite frankly, resent it very much. Even little events can snap the smile off of an unhappy person’s day - their balloon will burst just as easily over a slow internet connection as it would a flat tire. When bad things happen (which they tend to do), someone who is generally happy simply deals with it. No panic, no melt downs, no throwing blame around or raising their voice. Oh the drama! Granted, the smile will disappear as they get down to business, but it’ll return right after they’ve put everything back together again. Happy people know they can’t control life, but they CAN control the way they respond to life.
2. Happy people don’t live in the past. Some people feel unhappy simply because they won’t leave the past in the past. Happy people know that, for better or worse, the past is gone - living there, or even visiting too frequently, is a waste of time and energy. Some things have to be LET GO. You have to tell yourself - out loud even - “I’m letting this go before it proves to be my undoing.“ Happy people live in the present and realize that it can be a beautiful place if you accept it for what it is.
3. Although it may seem unusual, happy people are the best fighters in the world. If you think of the happiest person you know, the word “fighter” may not come to mind. After all, don’t we picture fighters as angry, determined, even mean? In the boxing ring, sure - but think about outside the ring. If someone is hit hard by one of life’s punches, and they refuse to go (or stay) down, how’d they find their feet? They fought for them, and they fought hard. The harder the punch, the harder to stand back up…but oh so worth the fight. Unhappy people are very weak. Usually they gave up long ago and got somewhat comfortable on the mat.

What some people don’t realize is that happy people feel the same pains the rest of the world does. If a happy person loses their dream home, for example, they most definitely register the pain. They cry the tears. They feel the loss. But they don’t let the situation win. They stand back up, dry their eyes, and look ahead to the great things that lie in the future. An unhappy person would use an experience like this as a crutch - a crutch that will only lead them to one of two places: Anger or Bitterness. Neither place is worth visiting, let alone moving into!

If you’re a “happy person,” give a big sigh of relief because you’ve learned one of the most important lessons in life. If you’re an “unhappy person,” give a big sigh of relief because you don’t have to stay that way.

Unless you want to.

There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re commited to something, you accept no excuses; only results. - Kenneth Blanchard

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1. Charting Your Course to Success Article

Attitudes of Successful Learners by Chris Widener (excerpted from Week 44 of the Jim
Rohn One-Year Success Plan)

Hi there, Chris Widener here. This week I want to talk with you about the attitudes
of successful learners.

We can choose our attitudes about anything, including learning and education. That's
right. We get to choose what our attitudes are. Here is the definition of attitude:
"The feeling or opinion about something or someone, or a way of behaving that
follows from this." We choose our opinion about people and situations. We choose the
way we will behave in relation to other people and circumstances. We choose what we
believe about learning. We choose it. Learning doesn't have to be bad. It doesn't
have to be anything but what we want it to be. We have the option. We can have
tremendously optimistic attitudes about learning - attitudes that will help us grow
in ways we have never achieved before!

The choice of a right attitude will significantly determine new circumstances.
Choosing to have the right attitude will change the world around you. This isn't any
sort of magic; it is just how the world works. Now, don't get me wrong. It won't
cure everything and turn your world into a virtual Shangri-La, but it will
significantly improve the world you live in. For example, let's say that every day
you go into work and you gripe about life and work from the moment you get there
until the moment you leave. Will others want to be around you? Will others ask your
opinion? Will others like you? Will others ask you to join them for lunch? Probably
not! But what if you come to work every day and you are the positive optimist of the
crowd? Will everybody love you? No, but significantly more people will than if you
are the office pessimist! Your choice of attitude will determine what kind of
circumstances you get!

The same is true with learning. What we feel about learning, and what we believe
about it will determine the outcomes of our learning. And the outcomes of our
learning will determine the outcome of our lives.

Ultimately, our attitude is a choice. Nobody else can force you to have a bad
attitude. Nobody else can force you to have a good attitude. It is simply a choice
we each make.

Where are you with your attitude about learning? Is it positive? Take some time to
give it some serious thought. Then, no matter where you find yourself, decide to
take your attitude to the next level! If you have a really bad attitude, decide to
take it up a couple of levels!

So, if our attitudes determine to a great degree what kind of life we have,
shouldn't we focus on the best attitudes to have and then make them ours?
Absolutely! If we want to soar with the eagles in this life, and if there are
attitudes that will make us soar, shouldn't we pursue them with all our hearts? By
all means! So here we go!

Attitudes of Successful Learners

1. "I can."
This is the most basic of all attitudes. We simply must choose to believe that we
can learn. In our house we are not allowed to say, "I can't." We can say, "I'll
try," or "I tried and failed," but not "I can't." Telling yourself that you can't
will in effect make it so. But telling yourself that you can, will in effect enable
you to learn much more. Even if you actually only achieve 50% of what you tell
yourself, you will achieve at least that much more than if you told yourself you
couldn't. So many people were told at a young age that they couldn't learn. Many
others were allowed to engage in that kind of negative self talk (tell themselves,
"I can't learn", "I don't understand", I'll never get this", etc.) and their parents
and teachers didn't intervene. This enabled them to develop the "I can't" attitudes
that become self-fulfilling prophecies.

I actually have a standard way of going about getting myself off of the starting
block. I simply say if somebody else has achieved great learning heights, then I can
too. I have to be smarter than at least one of those who has already done it. I have
to be able to work harder than at least one other. There has to be at least one
other person who has come from more difficult circumstances than me. And if they can
do it then certainly, "I can!"

2. "This is a long-term approach."
Learning isn't something that happens overnight. Yes, you can learn individual
facts, but the real growth comes when you see your learning build on itself and
compound for years, when your knowledge meets up with your experience. When we take
the attitude that it all has to happen immediately, we hurt ourselves in the long
run because the fact is that it takes time to learn (even though we can accelerate
it). If we expect it to happen immediately and it doesn't, then we can get
frustrated and stop learning altogether.

Instead, we need to take a long-term view just as we do in financial matters, weight
management, leadership, etc. Long-term thinking, including our learning is always
the best way to go for success.

3. "Learning is valuable."
Some people have a "learning schmearning - who needs learning" attitude. They think
that learning is overrated. I hate to tell you this, but not only was that wrong
5000, 500 and 50 years ago, it is especially wrong today. We live in the information
age. We must gain knowledge and the ability to apply that knowledge if we are going
to be successful. We must tell ourselves and cultivate the attitude that learning is
valuable and that it will affect our lives.

4. "I will make a difference in the lives of those around me."
People who soar are generally people who have the attitude of helping other people.
Yes, they may do it for monetary gain, but they are others-focused. They want to
change the way people live and experience life for the better. They are difference
makers all around. This is the same in what we learn. We learn first for ourselves,
but then with the goal of taking what we have learned, and what we make of
ourselves, and we then help others to do the same.

I live in a town that is very affluent. Most of the people I know, work with and
have as friends are very successful in this world. They have learned a lot about
life and how it works. They have learned how to make money and be successful in
business. One thing I can say, as almost a universal truth, is that as people, they
are not self-consumed but genuinely care about others and will do what they can to
help others. This is what I know to be true about the attitudes of the genuinely
successful.

These are the attitudes of people who are not just successful at getting information
into their minds, but in becoming good people because of that information. Learn all
that you can, and be sure to keep the attitudes that will make you a successful
learner and a successful person!

Have a great week!
Chris